MY SENIOR DATING SITE: She's Older Than Me. What Should I Do?

I always give the same answer: if you like the woman, that’s great. How old she is doesn’t matter. Women love attention from men, and receiving it from a younger guy is even more flattering. If you know how to communicate and be a gentleman, you’ve got a good shot at success. In fact, seducing an older woman isn’t much different from seducing someone your own age. Moreover, it’s often easier. Mature women have experience. They’re not in a rush to get married, and the idea of having sex doesn’t intimidate them.

"I’m talking to a woman much older than me! She’s willing to meet up with me! But here’s the problem: I don’t know what to say to her or how to talk! I want to sleep with her, but I have no idea how to bring it up."

Talk about your feelings. Tell her you’re crazy about her, that you’ve never met anyone like her (which is true!). Say you’re nervous and afraid of losing her over some silly mistake. Once you express this, you’ll feel more at ease.

Honesty works, as does the ability to see her as a person first. Trust me, she’s nervous too, and she has her own desires and concerns. Ask her about herself. What does she want? What are her dreams, interests? Suggest something you could both enjoy.

Age is just a number on a calendar; it has no bearing on feelings.

These days, it's not just a challenge for men, but for older women as well. I'm not talking about how women set high standards for men, but about the very act of meeting someone. Let's take the basics: I live in a small town, have my own apartment, a computer, and internet access. The only viable option is to use my computer, go online, and search for someone on senior dating sites.

Our relationship expert, Anna Shriver, did me a favor by reviewing a few men's profiles on our senior dating site. Her verdict wasn’t very encouraging. She said that most of these men had little chance of sparking a woman’s interest. Here's her advice:

Liven Up Your Photos
Your profile pictures often seem to say, "Here I am again! Look how sexy I am". Instead, upload pictures that highlight your activities, interests, and hobbies. For example, post photos like: "Enjoying a bike ride. Happy moments playing with my beloved spaniel. My pencil sketch on paper..."

Know Your Best Qualities
Are you sure the way you present yourself in your profile truly reflects who you are? Ask your friends and acquaintances what they like most about you. Write down what they say and use that in your dating profile. Get them to be specific.

Instead of writing, "I'm a fun, outgoing person", which millions of people say, try something like: "My friend once told me I’m his favorite travel companion".

Don’t Fear the Internet World
To be honest, many men are wary of online dating. Tell yourself, "The internet is my friend". It may sound cliché, but it’s true.

Strive for Authenticity
Don't create a profile of an ideal version of yourself that doesn’t exist. Let the real you shine through-just as you are.

Take the Initiative
If you find a woman's profile that interests you, send her a message. Don’t wait for her to respond to a "like" or a heart you sent.
If you're in the same city, suggest meeting for a walk in your favorite park. Just make sure you clearly define the meeting spot. Breathing fresh air is much better than sitting awkwardly across from a stranger in a café.

Stay Open-Minded
Let go of any preconceptions. She's not your type? Maybe her picture looks awkward, but she loves the same books as you. If you like what you see in her profile, just get to know her.

Message Regularly
If you’re interested in an older woman, write to her 2-5 times a week. Establish a rhythm, messaging almost as routinely as brushing your teeth. If you stop after one or two emails, it'll come across as arrogance or laziness.

Learn About Her Interests
Get involved in an activity or hobby she mentions in her profile. If her interests don't appeal to you, why are you even messaging her?

We've built a large database of senior singles who, like you, believe that the best part of life has just begun after 50. So why stay single when our senior dating site offers so many opportunities?

1. No Drama. A wise, beautiful, and calm woman is every man’s dream. These women are often chosen as wives. Mature women value comfort and harmony in relationships, so they won’t start conflicts without reason. When issues arise, they prefer finding a compromise rather than spending hours trying to prove their point.

2. Freedom and Trust. An older woman understands that a man needs his personal space. It’s not a sign of indifference but simply a mark of respect.

3. Motivation. A mature woman will inspire her partner to grow and develop personally.

4. Varied Sex Life. An experienced woman knows how to please her partner and enjoy herself in return. She is more open and sensual.